Bulimia Help

regarding hope, recovery, motivation, ...

"Chronic remorse, as all the moralists are agreed, is a most undesirable sentiment. If you have behaved badly, repent, make what amends you can address to the task of behaving better next time. On no account brood over your wrongdoing. Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean".

Aldous Huxley

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."

- Bill Cosby

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.""

- Anonymous

i really like that one by bill cosby- its short, but so true

If i'm bashing myself again, telling me how fat and worthless i am, or that i can't do anything, I tell myself
"I like me, and therfore i'm treating me good" (or rather "ich mag mich und deshalb behandle ich mich gut" cause i'm german).
It sounds stupid, but it helps to get a postive attitude towards myself.

I stumbled across this cute youtube video... have a look! It really made me smile and want to embrace recovery even more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fULtU2NfPQA&feature=fvw

come on :) more!

i have a freakin TON! i'll post them later today. heh just letting you know they're comin ;)

wow, the video of that kid just made me cry. That's a good thing, there should be more like that. People need to change their view.

My favorite quote is in my signature!

"I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul." - William Ernest Henley

My favorite quote is in my signature!

"I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul." - William Ernest Henley

I have this book called Inner Wisdom but Louise Hays... I'll put in my favorites...

"The biggest parts of healing and making myself whole is to accept all of the many parts of myself. I accept the times I did well, and the times when I didn't do so well; the times when I was terrifies, and the times when I was loving; the times when I was very foolish and silly, and the times when I was very bright and clever; the times when I had egg on my face, and time times when I was a winner. All of there are parts of myself. Most of my problems come from rejecting te parts of myself - not loving myself unconditionally. I do not look back on my life with shame. I look at the past as part of the richness and fullness of life. Without this richness and fullness, I would not be here today. When I accept all of myself, I become whole and healed."

" I am neither too much nor too little. I do not have to prove to anyone or anything who I am. I have been many identities, each one a perfect expression for that particular lifetime. I am content to be who and what I am this time. I do not yearn to be like someone else, for that is not the expression I chose at this time. Next time, I will be different. I am perfect as I am, right now. I am sufficient. I am one with all of life. There is no need to struggle to be better. All I need to do is love myself more today than yesterday, and to treat myself more as someone who is deeply loved. With joy, I recognize my perfection and perfection of life"

"Each experience is a stepping stone in life, including any so-called mistakes. I love myself for all my mistakes and missteps. They have been very valuable to me. They have taught me many things. It is the way I learn. I am willing to stop punishing myself for my mistakes. Instead, I love myself for my willingness to learn and grow"

"When I begin to work on myself, sometimes things get worse before they get better. It is okay if this happend, because I know that it's the beginning of the process. It's untangling old threads. I just flow with it. It takes time and effort to learn what I need to learn. I don't demand instant change. Impatience is only resisting learning. I let myself do it step by step. It will get easier as I go along."

"I know that until I make inner changes and am willing to do mental work, nothing "out there" is going to change. The only thing I need to change is a thought- just a thought. So, this year, I think of all the positive things I can do for myself. I think only positive thoughts. I affirm what I want each do as soon as I wake up. I say "out" to any unwanted, negative thinking. I am greatful for all the good in my life. In this way, I do mental work that effects positive change."

"In this world of change, I choose to be flexible in all areas. I am willing to change myself and my beliefs to improve the quality of my life and my world. My body loves my in spite of how I may treat it. My body communicates with me, and I now listen to its messages. I am willing to GET the message. I pay attention and make the necessary adjustments. I give my body what it needs on every level to bring it back to optimum health. I call upon an inner strength that is mine whenever I need it"

"When I feel insecure or frightened, I tend to pad my body with weight as a form of protection. I acknowledge that at these times, there is something going on in my life that is making me feel insecure. I can fight fat for 20 years and still be fat because I have not dealt with the underlying cause. If I am overweight, I put the weight issue aside and work on the other issue first- the pattern that says: I need protection. I'm insecure. However, I know not to get angry when weight goes on, because my cells respond to my mental patterns. When the need for the protection is gone, or when I start feeling secure, the fat will melt off by itself. What I choose to think today will start creating my new figure tomorrow."

"I close the door on old, painful memories. I close the door on old hurts and old self-righteous unforgiveness. I might take an incident in the past where there was pain and hurt- someting that is hard for me to forgive or look at. I ask myself: How long do I want to hold on to this? How long do I want to suffer ebcause of something that happened in the past? Now I see a stream in front of me and take this old experience, this pain, this hurt, this unforgiveness, and put the whole incident in the stream and see it begin to dissolve and drift downstream until it totally dissipates and disappears. I DO have the ability to let go."

"I remove the work should from my vocabulary forever. Should is a word that makes a prisoner of me. Everytme I say should, I am making myself wrong, or I am making someone else wrong. I am, in effect, saying I am not good enough. From hereon in, I replace the word should with the word could. Could lets my know that I have choice, and choice is freedom. I need to be aware that everything I do in life is done by choice. There is really nothing that I HAVE to do. I always have choice."

"In the infinity of life, all is perfect, whole, and complete. The cycle of life is also perfect, whole, and complete. There is a time of beginning, a time of growth, a time of ebing, a time of withering or wearing out, and a time of leaving. This is all part of the perfection of life. I sense it as normal and natural, and though saddened at times, I accept the cycle and rhythms. Sometimes there is an abrupt ending in mid-cycle. I am jarred and feel threatened. Someone dies too soon, or something was smashed and broken. However, I know that life is ever-changing. There is no beginning and no end, only a constant cycling and recycling of substance and experience. Life is never stuck or static or stale, for each moment is ever-new and fresh. Every ending is a new point of beginning."

"I love and accept myself exactly as I am. I support myself and trust myself wherever I am. I place my hand over my heart and feel the love that is in there. I know there is plenty of room for me to accept myself right here and now. I accept my body, my weight, my height, my appearance, my sexuality, and my experiences. I accept all that I have created for myself- my past and present. I am willing to allow my future to happen. I am a Divine, magnificent expression of life, and deserve the very best. I accept this for myself not. I accept miracles. I accept healing. I accept wholeness. And most of all, I accept myself. I am precious, and I cherish who I am."

"I love myself in this very moment - I do not wait until I loose weight, get a new job, find a new lover, or whatever. This moment is my reality, and I know that the only time I can begin to love who I am is right here and right now. Unconditional love is love with no expectations or conditions. It is that way I choose to love myself. It is accepting what is."

"I am willing to learn new things because I know that I do not know it all. I am willing to drop old concepts when they no longer work for me. I am willing to see situations about myself and say: I don't want to do that anymore. I know I can become more of who I am- not a better person, because that implies that I am not good enough, but I can become MORE of who I am. Growing and changing is exciting, even if I have to look at some painful things inside myself in order to do it."

"My inner wisdom knows all of the answers. Sometimes it is scary to know that, because the answer I get inside may be different from what my friends and family want me to do. Yet I know inwardly what is right for me, and I follow this inner wisdom, I am at peace with my own being. I support myself in making the right choices for me. When I am in doubt, I ask myself: Am I coming from the living space of the heart? Is this a decision that is loving for me? Is this right for me now? The decision I make at some later point- a day, a week, a month later- may no longer be the right choice, and then I can change it. I ask in every moment: Is this right for me? And I reply: I love myself, and I am making the right choices."

exactly what i needed to hear, read, see, believe, KNOW! i am sooooo buying this book! i am at school and i come on here to get my daily dose of recovery. reading this has opened my eyes and heart to a new me, a new ashlie. i'm going to love myself. i'm going to grow. i just printed this and am going to read it all as i sit down to eat my lunch. i am going to enjoy it and today is going to be a wonderful day. thank you, so much. i wish i could hug you! i want to, so desperately. i am putting this in my recovery binder, when i get home. drats, i knew i was gonna need to buy a paper puncher thing-y, haha. i love you, emma. have a lovely day!!!!! xoxo

:) I'm so glad you liked it. It really is a great book. It's called Inner Wisdom by Louise L. Hays. I also have another book called Love Your Body, by the same woman. They are both very motivational. I got them off of Amazon for pretty cheep! Again, I'm glad you liked them and hugs are sent back your way! :) Have a great day befree!

i am scared to buy things online though, hmmmm. should i? haha.

my name's ashlie ;)

thank you for this tip, I just ordered the book in German!

Just thought I would share some inspiring words that were on the wall of the classroom I was teaching in yesterday. :)

"The discipline of writing something down is the first step towards making it happen"

(That one made think of Structured Eating and planning my food)

This made me think of my habits (scales, triggers, etc):

"For things to change I must change"

i loved the last one!

the bill cosby quote is a big part of what landed me with mia in the first place!

i loved that video !!

A man(woman) cannot be comfortable without his own approval." -Mark Twain

friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world. -Eleanor Roosevelt

If you're going through hell, keep going. -Winston Churchill

Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. Hate destroys a man's sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true. -Martin Luther King Jr.

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.

... i have so many more but its 2:40 in the morning and ill post them tomorrow xox =)

"Take care of today and tomorrow will take care of itself."

I repeat it to myself multiple times per day, it relates to recovery in so many ways!

"How you think when you lose determines how long it will be until you win." -GK Chesterton

This local vegetarian restaurant has a quote on their website that says
"Make healthy choices, perfection will be yours." -Sri Chimnoy

Hello =) My closest friend (in fact, she seems to be my double) is German ^^

It was her that taught me a neat little saying, and it was her that inspired me to really recover. In her I saw everything I could become, everything I was underneath.

It translates to "Life is Colourful"

Whenever I feel weak, or like I can't go on, I repeat to myself

"The feeling will pass, it won't last forever, just breathe and you will be okay"

not really a proper quote, more of a self help thingy I came up with. But it serves as a reminder that I can get through a rough time. Another one I repeat to myself is one I heard on Oprah

"you deserve to live because you are alive"

Just serves as another reminder to myself that I can't give up and am worthy.

"I eat to live, not live to eat"

"I never said it was going to be easy. I said it was going to be worth it." Anonymous on Twitter

Some good ones from Henry Ford:
"Whether you think you can or you can't, either way, you're right."
"Don´t find fault, fina a remedy"
"Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently".

"A lost battle is a battle one thinks one has lost."
Jean-Paul Sartre

"I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self."
Aristotle

When your dreams turn to dust, vacuum. ~Author Unknown

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~Harvey Fierstein

You were born an original. Don't die a copy. ~John Mason

The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable. ~Paul Tillich